Well, it's true that when you love someone you urge that your better half should behave the way you do and want them to behave in a certain way, the fundamental cause of the issue. The more I studied human psychology and behaviours associated, I conclude that we all are the victims of habits. We as being the human are working on patterns and ego.
Ego is not something you can say as selfishness on the surface, but it is very fondly grounded and ingrained into us since many births. The ego of not being judged, the ego of being right all the time, the ego of being considered by someone, the ego of being prioritised, the ego of being given care and love, the ego of being respected and understood, is not new to this world and to us in fact. And this same ego makes your working and behaving pattern, which subconsciously work and occupy anything and everything that comes in its way to burn it up with its wrath. And sooner or later the conflicts, hatred, differences, emotional drama, gaslighting, blaming, revenge, ghosting, shouting, crying, and many more surfaced and then eventually these things become daily chaos and become the finality of a relationship and one-day bond gets broken.
I am not interest in penning down the dilemma you face, but as you are reading it, you must be searching for something to enrich and make your bond more satisfying, more blossom and more joyful.
I can't hand over the 5 point law that will work, because, there is no law that works in everyone's situation as everyone has something different in their story. I can only throw the light on the common and very evident overlapping issue and things one can work on it and improve their situation to many folds.
The First and Foremost thing that you supposed to do is to know yourself. Stop Living by Ego, Thinking and compulsive qualities. Break the chain of the old dead pattern and start considering the change. Get open to newness and accept things as they are without any compulsive urge to change immediately and to control them. And it can happen only when you become silent when your mental chatters stop. When YOU come into NOW. Don't react, just observe, Be in the moment totally to know and feel yourself, to understand your true self. And once that done, the problem will get resolved somewhere in between when you get on-boarded on this journey of being in this moment and as your progress in it.
Meanwhile consider this also.
- Communicate your feelings, still, we can't read minds.
- Express Love
- Feel grateful for having your partner in your life.
- Value them and their efforts.
- Put efforts.
- Consider them and try to understand their need and thier constraints.
- Don't be needy.
- Fix things and resolve the conflicts.
- Never assume.
- Know the truth that it is a blessing that someone loves you soo much, as pure love and a nice soul that loves you unconditionally is hard to find these days.
- Love, who they are and accept them as they are.
- Love them as a whole.
- Don't be clingy and possessive.
- Never Judge.
- Respect is the important thing.
- Flirt and laugh your ass off.
- Create moments.
- Hold hand tightly.
- Understand when they need you.
- Prioritize your valuable bond.
- Smile a lot.
- Forgive and avoid grudges.
- Keep the love alive.
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